HOW TO MAKE A CONVERSATION EFFECTIVE

Since the very inception, human interaction with the surroundings have been the touchstone and backbone of the civilization. In fact we are all here because of the interactions that happened long time ago which redounded to the rise of humanity. 

Communication is most fundamental form of interaction in the civilization. We do it definitely every single day through various methods, maybe verbally or through electronic medium. Communication in its most atomic sense is the act of giving, receiving and sharing information. Currently we are also communicating since my ideas and thoughts are being delivered by me and you are receiving them. We all know what communication is and how indispensable role it plays in our human relations. Communication is what engenders your personality. It is so paramount that research conducted in the quest to unearth the root cause of successful careers by the Carnegie Institute of Technology disclosed the underlying fact that the most successful careers have been built on influence and personality. It comes from your ability to connect with people, lead and negotiate. In fact, Theodore Roosevelt who served as the 26th president of the U.S. and was probably a game changing figure in the history of the U.S., was an icon built on the essence of personality. He was not the smartest neither he was the strongest yet he was able to leave such an ever-lasting and charismatic mark in the pages of history. Why? When his colleagues were aksed this, nobody argued against the fact that his way of communicating and personality maintenance was unparalleled. Whenever he had a meeting with someone of contrasting interests and ideas, he used to start with the other person's interests and then communicate his ideas in an optimistic manner that never led him down. 

Yet we all sometimes suck in our way of communicating. So for having effective communication, I am going to elucidate some simple yet enigmatic approaches that you can apply for becoming a prodigy at conversation and have a influential personality both in your professional and personal lives and maybe you can be the next Theodore Roosevelt. Like, who knows? 😉 

1.) Start with a kind greeting

The only thing in this universe which you can't do effectively is the one that you never start. Correspondingly for a conversation to become effective, it needs an inception and on the other hand kindness is the most acceptable and expected emotion among human race. So keeping both these facts into account, what can be a better way of commencing a conversation than a kind greeting of "hello" or "good morning" ?

2.) Wear a smile on your face

Nobody ever likes talking to a grumpy face. Have you ever liked talking to your teacher when you didn't complete your assignment? If asked to me, I would rather talk to a tree instead of talking to a face with a grumpy and unwelcoming expression. From next time before having a conversation, make sure to wear a decent smile on your face which should be genuine and should emanate directly from the heart.💓

3.) Be a good listener

Communication is not about speaking the most, it is rather about listening the most. Listening gives the other person feel that he/she is being welcomed to put their ideas and thoughts in words. It gives them a sense of importance. It generates an emotion within them that they wouldn't be judged but rather be listened. Interrupting abruptly in between wouldn't be the action that shall breed effective conversation. Being a good listener shall always bring back understanding in return. 

4.) Be genuinely interested and attentive

While listening don't act dumb or else it would occur to the person that he/she is talking to a statue. Become genuinely interested in the other person and imbibe their thoughts, ideas and beliefs and stay attentive during the conversation. There is no substitute to this. In the course of the conversation, give genuine good expressions that should be grounded away from intimidation or contemptuously emotion and ask questions if you are get uncertain of what they are saying in a way that shall foster brotherhood. Importance is what a human beings most desirably craves. Being attentive will make the other person feel important. This will definitely foster harmony in the conversation.

5.) Complementing won't do you any harm

Humankind is obsessed with appreciation. Next time when you are in a conversation, take some time to observe the things about the other person which you find impressive. That can be practically anything even the slightest detail which you find worth appreciation. And obviously don't mistake flattery with complement. Flattery won't espouse strong bond. Only a hearty approbation will.

6.) Have an eye contact

Eye contact is where all the magic commences. Now please don't go out of your way and start giving death stares to the other person since that would be a terrible way of ending the conversation. Have a generous and humble eye contact. There won't be any other way of forming a better empathic bond than this one.

7.) Be clear in what you want to say

Nobody likes disorder and chaos. When you are yourself not certain of what you want to say, there should be no anticipation that the other person will get what you want to convey. Effective communication exists when the message delivered by the speaker and the message received by the listener are exactly the same. Having clarity in your speech can utterly fullfil this benchmark. 

8.) Have courage and be confident

"Courage is the most important of all virtues because without it none of the virtues can be practiced effectively." Don't go nervous while talking. Have the courage to embrace confidence in your speech and then your are going to see the capricious change in your personality and way of communication and you shall commence to engender compelling influence around you.